Something may be sounding a bit familiar to you. My ex-husband’s name. Well you are correct. My ex-husband (Stephen Conrad) was the interim chief of Navassa PD during the Cinotti investigation in Navassa last year. Cinotti if you remember was the fake Navassa police officer who stopped to aid Leland PD and Brunswick EMS last year at a traffic stop. According to the DAs office Stephen Conrad wasn’t charged with any crimes because they couldn’t connect him with any “intent” to having given Cinotti those things or filling out officer paperwork. (insert big eye roll here) I guess they should have asked Conrad’s ex-wife about his intentions lol.
I guess Mr. Conrad is thinking since he got away with that he can get away with cheating on his ex-wife and having the house foreclose on her as well. Semper Fi Marine! You sure serve the phrase “Always Faithful” well! Guess you are going to tell the courts you had no “intentions” of having the house foreclose on your ex-wife either? Or how you didn’t intentionally mean to not pay your house payment for 3 years either?
You would think the Judicial system would not be playing favorites with you…but they are…
WELL IT ISN’T OVER YET, LETS SEE WITH THE BIAS ON BLAST IF WE CAN’T CHANGE THAT….
Stephen Ladd Conrad – why are you trying to get back at me for you cheating and leaving?
And Nickel Beachy – you don’t know me and have never met me…why are you helping him destroying my life based on what he has told you. You didn’t know what it was like in our marriage or our house, finances or anything else for that matter. You needed to have minded your own business and kept your legs and mouth shut. But since you didn’t, how about you be a woman for a minute and tell him to do right by me in stead of watching him destroy my life over stuff he and you both caused.
You can’t blame a person for how they reacted to your disrespect. Especially when you pushed them to a point they never asked to be.
HERE IS WHAT I WOULD HAVE SAID (MY SPEECH EXACTLY)
INJUNCTION (FOR HOUSE)
SPECIAL PROVISIONS: (Exhibit A)
Before we get started I have asked the court for special provisions and it will help lead me right into my first point.
I have what is known as Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) & general anxiety disorder.(Exhibit A ) Diagnosed by my physician of 6 years, my MDD stems from “years of spousal abuse and a contentious/stressful divorce with financial struggles”.
Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) is an adjustment disorder. (Exhibit A ) It in no way makes me “crazy” as the defendant has once implied in an affidavit (Exhibit A). Symptoms of MDD include the following:
poor concentration, forgetting things, feeling confused, weight gain or weight loss, and wanting to sleep too much or get little sleep. (Exhibit A)
My provisions include having to stay on topic, not answer a lot of questions asked to get me sidetracked nor be interrupted. Outside of reading what I have written down, speaking to get a clear thought out is a large barrier that currently impedes my daily life now. This is why I have to plan out my thoughts and read them this way. It’s hard for me to answer questions without taking the time to think about them or be able to answer them in a way anyone can understand. A few years ago it wasn’t this way. Now it almost brings me to tears when I can’t find the words I need to say.
THIS WILL BE RESPECTED AND ACKNOWLEDGED as it was not the last time and today I am in a dire situation and it is my turn to speak.
CASE LAW APPLIED:
Having been through an adverse court appearance a week ago ,it seems case law needs to be provided in regards to this matter and myself being a pro se litigant. So directly….
From the Judicial Conduct Reporter, The West Virginia Supreme Court of Appeals in Blair v Maynard explained: Many decisions authorize judges to handle cases involving self-represented litigants differently. For Example: The fundamental tenet (beliefs) that the rules of procedure should work to do substantial justice, commands that judges strive to ensure that no person’s cause or defense is defeated solely by reason of their unfamiliarity with procedural or evidentiary rules. Cases should be decided on merits, and to that end, justice is served by reasonably accommodating all parties, whether represented by counsel or not. This “reasonable accommodation” is proposed upon protecting the meaningful exercise of a litigant’s constitutional rights of access to the courts.
Similarly, the Arizona Supreme Court argued the following in White v. Lewis, 804 P.2d 805 (Arizona 1990) in summary: Meaningful access requires some tolerance by courts toward litigants unrepresented by counsel. Pro se litigants are by no means exempt from the governing rules of procedure. But neither should courts allow those rules to operate as hidden, lethal traps for those unversed in law. This may require some degree of extra care and effort on the part of judges who already labor long, hard caseloads. But the alternative slams the courthouse door in the face of those who may be in greatest need of judicial relief, all for the sake of ease of administration. In this case, the judge’s “unduly rigid and formulaic (cut and dry) process” and his “overly technical and rigid approach” in dealing with pro se litigants in domestic violence injunction proceedings impeded their ability to obtain the relief and protection they sought and “penalized pro se petitioners for being unfamiliar with the judicial system”.
In 2007 the aforementioned principles were reflected in a change made to the American Bar Association’s Model Code of Judicial Conduct – Rule 2.2 providing that “a judge shall uphold and apply the law, and shall perform all duties of judicial office fairly and impartially.” Newly added comment 4 to that rule adds a caveat: “It is not a violation of this Rule for a judge to make such reasonable accommodations to ensure pro se litigants the opportunity to have their matters heard fairly.”
I said all that…..
To say last week I was not heard, though I have researched and studied, and am more competent than most when it comes to pleadings and motions and though procedurally I feel I was correct I was not able to be heard on what really mattered. I was interrupted, my mental health accommodations were not respected and to my detriment ended up having an anxiety attack and a complete breakdown which impeded me from being able to communicate in an effective way.
THIS WILL NOT THE CASE TODAY:
Today I am here because in less than 8 days I will be homeless. There is a reason for that and I am here to rectify it.
– Our marital property is owner financed. Financed until a very fast approaching mature date. If neither party can refinance the remaining $139,000 the house will go into foreclosure and we will have to find another place to live.
– When Mr. Conrad left me for someone else (which I have AMPLE proof of) He thought he could ignore me, block me, cut me off with nothing and treat this like a bad break up. Being that I was 100% dependent on him at the time he chose to leave me, he told me while still a Sheriff’s Deputy with the County he would take care of me. However, after that he stopped making the house payments which are still in his name as of today. He hasn’t made a house payment since July 1st 2020.
– Though I have a sheet of paper from the tax office where Mr. Conrad specifically told them he would be conveying all interest and a text message from July 1st 2020 from Mr. Conrad saying he left the house to me. He has still failed to sign over the marital property.
SUBPOENA FROM TAX OFFICE:
In March of this year I subpoenaed the Brunswick County Tax office after finding out Mr. Conrad had called around April of 2022 in order to stop his wages from being garnished for the marital property. I received a statement made by Mr. Conrad to the tax office proving when it benefited Mr. Conrad, he will say I can have the house but in front of the court it is the opposite. The statement made was the following:
“Phone number redacted Stephen Conrad – Property is in court for Equitable Distribution where Stephen Conrad will convey all interest to his ex-wife Heather Conrad (Kuykendall) He has requested the mailing address be changed back to the home address so that Heather Conrad will receive notifications for the property”
When Mr. Conrad called and made that statement about conveying interest to me; it did stop his wages from being garnished for a period of time. So he made this phone call intentionally in order to evade wage garnishment, or in legal terms to avoid paying taxes. As I am aware in the State of North Carolina lying to government office in order to evade taxes and/or wage garnishment falls under N.C.G.S. 105-236a(7) which states the following:
“(7)Attempt to evade or Defeat Tax. – Any person who willfully attempts, or any person who aids or abets any person to attempt in any manner to evade or defeat a tax or its payment, shall, in addition to other penalties provided by law, be guilty of a Class H felony.”
In addition, if Mr. Conrad had not meant to say that statement; he would have simply called as he did in March of this year when my parents paid the Oak Island taxes to see if the Brunswick County taxes had been paid off as well. Another little piece of information I picked up from the same subpoena.
In my opinion, Mr. Conrad should be charged & arrested or do as he told the government office and actually convey all interest to me. According to Mr. Conrad the reason why he hasn’t conveyed interest is because he doesn’t want to pay alimony.
As explained to Mr. Conrad and his attorney several times there is no equity in our home due to the type of contract we have. It still has storm damage and mold, many things needing repairs and needs to be refinanced before foreclosure on June 24th 2023.
When Mr. Conrad stopped making payments in July of 2020 my family stepped in and I told them Mr. Conrad had promised me the house and as soon as we were able to get an attorney to draw up the papers, he would sign it over. Then in turn, I would sign it over to them where they can easily refinance the home. They began helping with repairs to the home and with general maintenance. Even in January of 2021 at the PSS hearing Mr. Conrad and his attorney yelled loudly “he doesn’t want the home”. Since my first attorney never drew up the order for that hearing, when it did finally come out, it was wrong and Mr. Conrad had decided he no longer wanted me to have a home. My parents were only making the house payment every 3 months. In September of 2021 and 3 times after the house almost went into foreclosure. We reached out to see if Mr. Conrad would start paying any bills. He and his attorney gave no response. What they did give was an offer that is against the Rule of Law where Equitable Distribution is separate from Alimony. They said “He will sign over the house if you dismiss the alimony claim.” I cannot do that.
Being that I was 100% dependent on my husband at the time he left. Plus,myself having given up my dreams in order for my husband to pursue his, my job history isn’t great, my credit is bad and being able to afford a house payment isn’t something I could do on my own. In spite of that, now I could do $139,000 refinanced with alimony. You can’t find rent for that price. you can’t find a house for that price either, and I live and work on Oak Island. With all of that, in addition, I never asked to be left by my husband who broke our marriage vows.
As my parents are considered investors they came along in July 2022 wanting to collect from Mr. Conrad because it had been long enough for him to do as he once promised. Consequently, they filed a $56,000 lawsuit in another county. Mr. Conrad thought he could ignore this and decided he was too far above the law to respond. 180 days later after being served his attorney found out about the lawsuit on the webex meeting around the end of Oct of 2022. She made her client acknowledge it and found him an attorney in Davidson County. Though Mr. Conrad was already, by law, in default according to Rule 55, he somehow escaped accountability yet again and has been able to ignore my parents and their lawsuit just like he has ignored his obligations to pay his house payment still.
BUT WAIT THAT’S NOT ALL (HOA DUES):
At the end of March, early April of this year I received a letter from our HOA about back dues. It stated they were going to put a lien on the home for around $8,200. I contacted his attorney and she responded with “are you going to pay anything?” How am I expected to pay anything when I have nothing already, plus my parents have been keeping up his credit and paying his bills for the last 3 years. When was Mr. Conrad going to finally put something into the house he supposedly wants half of? It just proves that Mr. Conrad would rather let the house go into foreclosure and have a lien on it rather than do anything to preserve it in good faith.
DEALS/CONCLUSIONS:
So in good faith I have been trying to reason with Mr. Conrad to help him understand that after June 24th 2023 there will be no home to negotiate. I have offered several things that benefit us both rather than just benefit him.
The only debt we currently have right now is the house & our hoa dues. He owes me half of his 401k, PTO,sick leave which he cashed out in July of 2020 & our marital bank account of which he cut me off from at the same time. He did cheat of which he is very aware I still do have ample proof of and that’s what ended our marriage.
I knew I did not have to give up any negotiation because of a clause in the owner financed contract which I tried to explain to the Defendant’s attorney having already checked with my parent’s attorney and our mortgage company, I made the offer of:
Assuming the marital debt (the house and the hoa dues) which is $139,000 plus $8,200 & going up monthly. He signs the house so it doesn’t go into foreclosure and my parents are able to refinance it and he helps me get on my feet by paying alimony in the amount of $697 (which is what he is paying now) for one year.
His response: No, he doesn’t want to pay alimony (or so he says). He offered, signing over the house, he keeps his 401k, doesn’t pay alimony & makes sure there is a clause that I “never speak to him again.” (SIDE NOTE) He got upset because he has ignored our divorce proceedings for 3 years and he is being contacted about things again. I don’t want to contact him, I don’t want anything to do with him. I just want him to take responsibility for his actions so we can all move on.
But, he would rather let the house foreclose where it would affect his credit and mine and he would still have to pay me alimony and half his 401k.
As I have explained to the Defendant’s attorney right now there is no equity in the home, not the way the contract works and there hasn’t been throughout our whole marriage. There are repairs that need to take place in the home to bring it back up to standard liveable conditions. When Mr. Conrad left there was over $35,000 worth of Hurricane Florence Damages that needed to be repaired. In addition, there is still mold in the house, both AC units need to be replaced, a new dishwasher is needed because mine has not worked since 2018, so roughly around $15,000 in addition will need to be put into the home to even bring it back to “sellable” conditions. Again though it still is more beneficial to keep the home, refinance, repair it and be able to afford it rather than try to find a place to rent or buy, neither of which I can do at this point and time.
SO just to see what Mr. Conrad’s response would be, after I received the quit claim paperwork from the mortgage company I told his attorney I could quit claim the property over to Mr. Conrad right now. He would assume all the marital debt being the house & hoa, he would have to repair the home and sell it before June 24th 2023 otherwise he would have a foreclosure on his credit, still owe me alimony, half of his 401k, PTO, sick leave & marital bank account funds all while I walked away debt free with no responsibilities because this is how our contract works and the time limit we are on. Or he could take my aforementioned offer which is more beneficial to him since he already has a roof over his head and all I am asking is he continue to pay what he is now for another year and we go on about our lives and the answer was no.
This proved there were ulterior motives and the rumors I have heard are true. It isn’t about the house for Mr. Conrad or paying me alimony, it is about making sure I end up homeless. He doesn’t even want the house or the supposed future money from the house Plus here we are and the alimony claim will still be considered regardless because otherwise he would have settled outside of court or jumped on the idea of having the house and all that supposed “potential money” to himself.
While I am not here for alimony I do not want to end up dependent on my parents. With the deal Mr. Conrad is wanting me to take, having done the math with the house payments and refinancing. My parents will be making the house payments for another 3 years in order to help me get on my feet. They are already going to be assuming our marital debt along with me in order to make sure I have a place to live. So that’s why at another date and time alimony will be an issue.If I receive alimony they won’t be paying my house payment.
This along with the contract clause is why I never thought of accepting Mr. Conrad’s deal. I know how I was left, I know what I was promised and I know what I need to be made whole. I am sick of hearing “you aren’t going to get both.” Why not? From what I have read, the LAW says I can. The proof I have of everything, says I can, if someone were to actually look through it. If a former law enforcement officer and prior Marine would take responsibility for his actions, I would be able to live moving forward. Instead I have been stifled, unable to speak, told it just doesn’t work like that here in this courthouse. It’s devastating and disheartening. I feel like I’ve stood in the middle of a crowded room screaming at the top of my lungs with all the proof in the world and no one hears me.
What needs to happen is someone needs to take the time to look at the state of affairs of each case and apply the actual law to help those who have been greatly challenged by being left in circumstances they never asked for.
Cowering and accepting the bare minimum or settling for less than is needed is never ok. I did that, I spent the last 10 years of my life doing that and it landed me right here. I am no longer accepting broken rules, misinterpreted laws or unacceptable behavior. I am here today to get what I need. What I need according to the law is an injunction to save my home.
Pursuant to G.S. 50-20 (11a) Acts of either party to maintain, preserve, develop, or expand; or to waste, neglect, devalue or convert the marital property or divisible property, or both, during the period after separation of the parties and before the time of distribution. I have, along with my parents, done the best I can to preserve & maintain the marital property including repairing to the best extent I could. Mr. Conrad has neglected paying for the marital property, has not cared or been alarmed if the property goes into foreclosure or has a lien therefore devaluing the property. He has not helped with any repairs or maintenance towards the property since July 1st of 2020.
Pursuant to G.S. 50-20 12(i) Upon filing an action or motion in the cause requesting an equitable distribution or alleging that an equitable distribution will be requested when it is timely to do so, a party may seek injunctive relief pursuant to G.S. 1A-1, Rule 65 and Chapter 1, Article 37, to prevent the disappearance, waste or conversion of property alleged to be marital property, divisible property, or separate property of the party seeking relief. I have filed for injunctive relief pursuant to this Rule to prevent the disappearance, waste or conversion of property alleged to be marital property and am seeking relief. Which at this point the only thing to do is to have the defendant sign it over so it can be refinanced so I have a place to live. There is no time to do anything else but that. The defendant was aware there was a time limit on this contract.
Leaning very heavily Pursuant to G.S. Chapter 1 Article 37 (Injunction) under 1-485 (3) which states the following: (3) When, during the pendency of an action, it appears by affidavit of any person that the defendant threatens or is about to remove or dispose of his property, with intent to defraud the plaintiff. The word “defraud” according to Black’s Law Dictionary by definition means, To practice fraud; to cheat or trick; to deprive a person of property or any interest, estate, or right by fraud, deceit, or a clever strategy usually intended to deceive. It is Mr. Conrad’s intention to make sure I end up homeless rather than make any type of deal that will ensure a positive future for us both. He is adamant on making sure the home goes into foreclosure therefore hurting us both financially for the next 7 years.
Pursuant to G.S. 50-20 (f) The court shall provide for an equitable distribution without regard to alimony for either party or support of the children of both parties…Like I have been saying all along the law states ED is separate from alimony and because we are here regardless there will still be an alimony claim now.
Next the Plaintiff requests the court take into consideration G.S. 50-20(e): (e) Subject to the presumption of subsection (c) of this section that an equal division is equitable, it shall be presumed in every action that an in-kind distribution of marital or divisible property is equitable.At least 3 times over the past 3 years Mr. Conrad made statements “in-kind”,meaning by legal definition dividing other than by money, the marital property to me. Once in July of 2020, via text message, when he said he left the property to me he hasn’t been there in months. The second time in January of 2021 at the PSS hearing when he yelled loudly with his attorney “he doesn’t want the house” & again when he called up to the tax office around April 11th of 2022 conveying all interest to me which was documented by a tax official.
And lastly, you know those old laws you hear about that are still legal because they haven’t been amended and still completely valid. Well I happened to be reading over the North Carolina Constitution and as it is the document which governs North Carolina first, there is a law in there about women’s rights. I read it carefully at least 10 times and it was adopted around the time women were allowed to have the right to vote. It also gave us rights to property. As old as it may be, it is still a valid law in the State of North Carolina. It is:
Article 10 of the North Carolina Constitution
Sec. 4. Property of married women secured to them.
The real and personal property of any female in this State acquired before marriage, and all property, real and personal, to which she may, after marriage, become in any manner entitled, shall be and remain the sole and separate estate and property of such female, and shall not be liable for any debts, obligations, or engagements of her husband, and may be devised and bequeathed and conveyed by her, subject to such regulations and limitations as the General Assembly may prescribe.
Such case law to back this up comes from the Supreme Court of North Carolina Dated March 11th 2022 M.E. v T.J. In Summary: In M.E., the Court determined the plaintiff properly preserved her right to appeal because she raised the issue and obtained a ruling on her claim regarding the constitutionality of relief in a Chapter 50B Case.
THE FOLLOWING WOULD HAVE BEEN MY CLOSING STATMENT:
CLOSING STATEMENT:
It has come to the point for me of near homelessness, near irreparable mental issues and financial peril. The actual law was never meant to make sure someone in my situation ends up homeless from being financially abused.
I want to hop on my soapbox for a minute and ask without a show of hands those sitting in the courtroom who fought or still might be fighting for this following statement as it will pertain similarly to an oath you may have once sworn:
We, the people of the State of North Carolina, grateful to Almighty God, the Sovereign Ruler of Nations, for the preservation of the American Union and the existence of our civil, political and religious liberties, and acknowledging our dependence upon Him for the continuance of those blessings to us and our posterity, do, for the more certain security thereof and for the better government of this State, ordain and establish this Constitution.
That the great, general, and essential principles of liberty and free government may be recognized and established, and that the relations of this State to the Union and government of the United States and those of the people of this State to the rest of the American people may be defined and affirmed, we do declare that:
– We hold it to be self-evident that all persons are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain inalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, the enjoyment of the fruits of their own labor, and the pursuit of happiness.
I quoted the aforementioned to say this, I once stood by a man who took a similar oath to this. I kept our household, I stayed loyal when he was away and when he made the decision to leave the service to go from one seemingly selfless service to another I supported him as a wife should. I never imagined I’d be sitting here fighting that same man for the rights to have a roof over my head. All I have ever asked from him is that he take responsibility for his actions and allow me to have happiness in my life again. Instead I have had to take every course of legal action against him in order to make sure I could have the very liberties he fought for.
Over the past 3 years my family has put over $34,092 into the home him and I once shared. He has put nothing. They have made home repairs, paid taxes minus what was forcibly being garnished from his wages which was very little. My family is willing to put another $162,000 into the home in order to insure that I have a roof over my head. That money is marital debt that the Defendant, a man who dually swore to serve and protect and to remain always faithful, has abandoned. I think my family has more than proven we deserve to enjoy the fruits of our labor.
In addition I believe our forefathers saw the issues we would face as women down the road of being tossed out on the street by men in order to hurt us for some malicious reason which is why Article 10 Section 4 of the North Carolina Constitution was never amended. As a woman I am thankful for that. I hope I have more than proven my case here today in order to be allowed by the court and by our Constitution to be granted this Injunction to save my house. And also hoping that from here on out the once hero of my story who swore to protect me doesn’t continue to act like the villain who destroys my life instead.
This post has been needed to repeat so here it goes:
🖤 HARD TRUTHS 💜
Reflections on 2024 as I stepped into 2025
As someone who has battled depression—and is still navigating it—I know how different it can look from the outside. When someone reaches out for help during a vulnerable moment, it’s because they trust the people around them. That trust should be treated with honor, not used as an opportunity to take advantage of someone who is struggling.
🕳️ What am I talking about?
I’m speaking from personal experience. Around this time in 2024, I fell into a very deep depression. By the end of January, I was in such a dark place that I couldn’t see a way forward. The stress I was under came from every direction, piling up with no relief and nowhere to turn.
It wasn’t the first time I’d been in that place, but it was one of the hardest. When things finally began to shift, I knew I needed help. I reached out to people I trusted—people I believed had good hearts. They helped me through a moment when I desperately needed support, and I began taking steps to heal.
But because of past toxic situations, rumors and gossip started spreading. And some of the very people who once helped me began using that vulnerable chapter of my life as leverage—twisting the story, spreading negativity, and trying to tear me down despite knowing the mental health challenges I was facing.
Why I’m sharing this
I’m sharing this because even after fighting my way through depression, rebuilding myself, and setting boundaries, some of these so‑called “good people” still hold that vulnerable time over me without any regard for the harm it can cause.
I often wonder how many others have gone through something similar. And the more I thought about it, the more I realized that speaking up—being open, being vulnerable—is the only way to bring awareness to something so sensitive. So here I am, stepping into the light. If others want to use my story maliciously, I’ll use it to help someone else feel less alone.
A message for those who mock someone’s pain
If you’re reading this and your reaction is to dismiss, belittle, or find humor in someone’s struggle, then it’s time to take a hard look inward. Life has a way of humbling us, and one day you may need compassion too. I hope you never encounter people who treat you the way you treat others.
This year didn’t go the way I imagined. I started 2025 with a promise to myself: to heal, to grow, and to finally build toward the future I’ve been working so hard for but life had other plans. Early in the year I was diagnosed with a 10cm tumor on my neck and by the end of the year I learned I have a large diaphragmatic hernia. While I was fighting one battle, another one quietly stepped forward. The weight of both has been heavy—physically, emotionally, and mentally.
Looking back, many of you remember the conflict in late September and early October. A lot of people didn’t understand why I reacted the way I did. The truth is, when you’re carrying something this big, you simply don’t have room for pettiness or people who choose to hurt others for no reason. I’ve been fighting for my health and my future. I couldn’t and still can’t waste energy on anything that pulls me away from that.
But I did keep one promise to myself this year: to speak up, to stand my ground and to face things directly instead of shrinking back. Not everyone liked that and that’s okay. Growth rarely makes everyone comfortable. It is true what they say, you never know what a person is going through and for that reason always be kind and have a good heart towards your fellow human.
As 2026 approaches, my focus is shifting fully to my health and my future. I’m choosing myself. Because even after everything, no matter who stands beside you or who falls away, you are your own constant. You are your own responsibility and you are worth fighting for.
Here’s to a new year filled with strength and hope. One step, one breath, one victory at a time.
P.S. If any part of you read this and thought, “Good, I’m glad she’s going through this,” or anything along those lines, it might be time to take a hard look at your morals. That reaction doesn’t reflect well on your character.
Several days ago, following the latest response from the Board of Directors at Long Bay Commons, I formally issued a ‘Notice of Legal Action’ to assert and protect my legal rights. In the notice, I used formal language to articulate my claims and reasons in a respectful manner. Concurrently,during a visit to one of the Board members’ businesses, I learned that she was on a hiatus out of town and would be away until April 27th. Upon her return today, within 20 minutes of being back at her Pack and Ship store, I received a communication that I believe you should review for yourself. The way this Board member responded to my articulated claims and protection of my legal rights could have definitely been handled better. Having been presented in bad faith by that Board member is why not only am I sharing it here but it is why it will be present in the current complaint I am filing in court. To skip ahead please refer to “P5” as the part the Board member is referring to:
The Board Member’s reply after 4 days
To this: P1
P2
P3
P4
P5: this is what she is replying to. A little spiteful and in bad faith in my opinion, especially after four days.
Also I guess maybe some board members think I’m joking about a lawsuit but I guess they won’t when they get served at this meeting on Saturday. I just really wish they understand my circumstances like I’ve asked repeatedly and know that I’ve done what I can to make a timeline with them but it’s their refusal that has led to this situation.
Their want to fine me is because it is one board members want to see me foreclosed on and moved out of here. That’s evil and cruel. As for the rest that won’t take a stand, you’re just as guilty.
Over the past week my father has helped in trying to resolve issues. Comprehensively, my father along with Glen Willis have talked and seemingly come to an understanding. It was made clear that it was understood about the window units along with a plan moving forward . However, like anything dealing with this POA it seemed there was an issue over other things that may not have been too clear. Myself, as the legal unit owner emailed the Board of Directors asking for a list just to clarify things. Retrospectively I was thinking this is a step in the right direction as a means to end all issues. I expected when I got off work to have an email detailing things to make sure we were on the same page. After work I checked my email and no response until I got half way home and received a very rude email from a Board member going against every word he spoke to my father. I’ll just let ya’ll read for yourselves.
My email…obviously its supposed to say I also “do not mind” but who knows how Glenn read it.
Glenn’s reply Part 1
Glenn’s reply Part 2
Apparently this was too hard to ask for all while making a few points clear. This really says it all. Along with this Glenn told my father that the POA hasn’t been able to get in touch with attorneys about the railings because they are expensive (nevermind 2 previous attorneys already made this clear) . Well you see what I saw today. Another lie told to my father gas lighting him when Glenn and the Board’s agenda is clearly the opposite.
Then I got a notification about 5 mins later that Rodney Keesee FINALLY wanted to chime in after 4 years of silence hiding behind attorneys and the POA. I literally have nothing to say to him nor does he deserve the time of day to even be acknowledged, not after everything he has done with zero accountability. Trash can is where that message went straight to without being read.
So as this saga continues, so will the posts keep coming until then…. Ta-Ta for now (TTFN)
With the ongoing current situation this memory popped up in my Facebook marking the ongoing harassment from the previous and current POA president. As one Board member seems to have forgotten this particular incident of which she was a part of I am going to refresh every one’s memory.
In this you will see me repeat myself of saying where I asked for a meeting and was denied for years and how I just want all forms of harassment to end since I could not communicate with the Board and it’s President, though it is my right to do so. Please notice this was April 14th 2022. At this time there was no established Board of Directors since there had not been an annual meeting in over a year and the self proclaimed President at the time was none other than the same one there is now leading the charge for fines against me. Before proceeding, it is pertinent to mention in April 2022, both air conditioning units in my residence were functioning properly, and there were no issues with the window units or the interior blinds.
The heading posted on my Facebook along with screenshots of the email referring to this incident. Tell me if you had found this out, how would your email read? Would it be like this or much worse?
For several years, I have experienced undue harassment stemming from the need for repairs to my condominium following damage caused by Hurricane Florence. Due to inadequate maintenance of the roof and the absence of appropriate insurance coverage at the time Hurricane Florence occurred, the condominium’s board’s negligence resulted in my prolonged exposure to toxic mold, for which they were responsible.
Part 1 of the email
Part 2
Part 3…..now on to some of the comments on the post⬇️
Note the date
This comment really says it all.
Now as my father has been told, if things aren’t fixed by May 4th 2024, it doesn’t matter about the “unbiased” meeting I am supposed to have and regardless of what I have to say, they will be voting to fine me. Seem fair?
Have I not mentioned several times before finding this information out on April 12th 2024, that this meeting would be unfair and bias? At least they are following right through with what I have stated all along. Yet, I’m the “mean big bad wolf”? Am I really? Or am I reacting to the disrespect and you don’t like how I went about it?
Things I haven’t appreciated: 1. Entitled Board members getting offended when they could have just communicated with me like civil adults. 2. A Board member lying to my father about “mops” being on my porch and saying, “there is currently trash on her porch” when that’s completely untrue. 3. The Board members acknowledging and addressing issues with my father but couldn’t address them back in February when I asked for communication. (My father is not the unit owner) 4. The pot calling the kettle black by approving things against the rules for everyone else but won’t do the same for me. 5. The Board members wanting me to respect their boundaries but didn’t and still refuse to respect mine. 6. One Board member already stating to my father the outcome of the May 4th 2024 meeting. I will be receiving fines regardless.
Above is a picture of the side of my building and the back of another. Here they are concerned about a window unit and other blind over there (which is inside my house) stating “blinds and awnings should be of neutral color”. However completely ignoring another unit’s violation and approving their black screen on another door in the same enclosed parking area (not facing any roads or side streets). See the pot calling the kettle black here?
They have already made excuses for the other issue I have brought up deeming things ok by them however they will not deem anything about my unit ok. There will ALWAYS be some issue regardless and that is the point I am making here. If it isn’t being harassed by the President’s parents, it’s going to be some type of violation or the President finding ways to foreclose.
Furthermore, since there have comprehensive discussions with my father about things, we looked like we were on the way to some resolve. I was so wrong. I sent timestamped photos to my father the same day he was told “there was trash on my porch” and a mop of some kind that was a big issue. I asked my father, was there any pictures of this? Upon arriving home just moments after getting off the phone with my father I snapped a picture of my porch. I showed him, yes I have a cover up, this was in order to keep nosey Board member’s eyes to themselves. I agreed I had a window screen that needed to be removed and I could put my trash can back against the house and that I will remove the cover once I know that everyone can keep their eyeballs to themselves. Not a big deal right?
Well apparently not, now according to the Board members I must remove my box fan and other things from my porch because “they are violations”. I said, Ok I see how this game is going to go. They are going to constantly spy on my porch and when they see something they don’t like they are going to tattle tail to my parents for me to remove it, all while another unit just to the right of me is in clear violation with their black screen. This will be the continuation of being a target because of who the President of the POA is.
The situation has escalated to the point where the Board of Directors have informed my parents about my situation, assuming their intervention would align with the Board’s objectives. In a sense “tattle tailed on me”. This approach, along with others attempting to undermine me through my blog and social media, have not been effective.
It is notable moving forward to make it clear my parents do NOT own my unit.
A recent incident involved a comment from an individual, supposedly informed, accusing me of having trash on my porch visible from Publix across the street. In response, I took a photograph from Publix to demonstrate there was no visible trash therefore disproving the accusation and suggesting the individual’s claim was exaggerated.
Picture of my building from the Publix parking lot. First, how does this person even know which unit is mine? Second, this is taken from the bottom of the Publix parking lot, what is it that this person would have claimed to have seen exactly from this location?
I received a comment from a follower who appeared to have detailed knowledge of my personal life, suggesting they had communicated with someone close to the situation. The commenter criticized the cleanliness of my porch, claiming they could currently see trash on it from Publix across the street. To counter this assertion, I took a photo of my building from the Publix parking lot, showing no trash was present on my porch, which has been clean since early February. This incident suggests the person either has mistaken information or exaggerated their claim.
I suppose he didn’t read my blogs otherwise he wouldn’t have made several of these statements, nor do I think he had X-ray vision to see such things from the Publix parking lot
Let’s get into a deeper moment here……..
In a recent reflection, the individual wanted me to acknowledge the importance of transparency and because of that I am sharing the personal experience of severe depression which led to a suicide attempt in late January or early February. This period was marked by considerable challenges, including overwhelming living conditions, that contributed to a momentary lapse in judgment.
Depression, as many can attest, significantly impacts both mental and physical well-being, making daily tasks and maintenance difficult. During the recovery process, an oversight resulted in the accumulation of approximately six bags of garbage on the porch. This was not a permanent situation, as the trash was removed shortly after the homeowner’s association issued a first violation notice. This incident was resolved swiftly and without further “drama”. Should they have been there? No, but they weren’t there for a long period of time.
Additionally, today, it came to my attention that the Board members communicated with my father, disclosing the matters I have been pursuing for several months. They engaged in a comprehensive discussion and expressed understanding. However, they declined to schedule a meeting and have a discussion with me. The Board expressed on May 4th regardless of me citing my concerns at an “unbiased” meeting, regardless fines will be imminent if issues remain unresolved.
I had previously anticipated this response from the Board. Moreover, they portrayed my email communications in a negative light to my father, suggesting that I was unpleasant in my interactions. This aligns with my earlier observations about their reaction to my requests.
I had repeatedly sought the same level of respect and responsiveness extended to my father before resorting to a more assertive & eccentric tone. The necessity for this blog might have been obviated had there been a willingness to engage in constructive dialogue earlier, specifically around February.
The Board members succeeded in convincing my father of assertions contrary to what I had previously been informed. It appears they have given their endorsement for the installation of railings by each unit owner individually, only to subsequently inform my father they have been seeking clarification for years on whether the railings constitute part of the Commons elements. I proceeded to clarify to my father that the Board had been advised in 2020 by their appointed attorney that the railings are indeed part of the common elements, as they are integral to the building’s external structure and are documented in the plats and plans registered with the county of record.
Enclosed below is a photograph illustrating the current condition of my window unit and blind, which has regrettably sustained minor damage, rendering it an unsightly feature within my residence. Additionally, the image depicts a restricted parking area, accessible only by navigating behind the BBQ House to enter a compact parking space located at the rear of the condominium complex.
To the left with my window unit is the blind that the HOA is making such a big deal out of and is in question. This parking lot is enclosed by the BBQ house and only accessible by alleyway. Notice the screen that is actually in violation back there that is neither a shade or awning, alters the outside structure of the building and is NOT of neutral color.
It has come to my understanding that, subsequent to discussions with my father and a Board member, the installation of the window unit has been retrospectively sanctioned by the Board. This is despite my repeated efforts to communicate the identical information to them. However, the condition of my blind—specifically, its noticeable presence from the exterior of my property and its deviation from the aesthetic standards set forth by our community by-laws—has drawn criticism. According to these by-laws, window dressings such as shades and awnings are required to be of a neutral color palette. It has been duly noted, failure to address and rectify this issue before the deadline of May 4th, 2024, will result in a fine, despite the provision for an impartial meeting to discuss this matter.
It is pertinent to highlight an inconsistency regarding the enforcement of these by-laws, as evidenced by the presence of a doorway within the same parking area. This doorway, finished with a stark black screen that contradicts the prescribed neutral tones, and something that remains unchallenged and appears to have been approved without the issuance of violations or sanctions.
Members of the Board have indicated the contention surrounding my property does not originate from the Board itself but rather from concerns raised by members of the community. These concerns seemingly extend to the previous state of disarray on my porch—a situation that has since been rectified following a personal battle with depression.
This communication is intended to not only address the specific grievances cited but also to draw attention to what I perceive as a discrepancy in the application of our community’s regulations and the apparent selective enforcement of the same.
It must be unequivocally understood that at no point have I avoided presenting every aspect of the narrative, nor have I denied any breaches on my part. From the onset of these developments in February, an approach characterized by effective communication, equity, and comprehension would have been greatly appreciated. The core issue arises when action is deferred until the situation escalates to a detrimental stage, followed by an expectation for me to respond, consequently leading to further turmoil. It is problematic to fixate on matters that have since been resolved and persistently scrutinize them. It is imperative to ensure the accuracy and indefensibility of one’s assertions. Furthermore, it was and is the responsibility of the Board to initiate communication with me at the earliest juncture, rather than deferring this communication to my father after a considerable delay and necessitating public disclosures to this level.
So as the Board of Directors at Long Bay Commons play victim to circumstances they have created and crying “big bad wolf” to my father (who doesn’t own my unit) just as I said they would in the very first article regarding this matter. I bid everyone adieu and we will be back for when this saga will continues.
One of the Board members appears to be upset and has accused me of slander. Slander involves untrue spoken words, such as calling someone a derogatory term to their face. In contrast, the correct term for false written statements is libel. The Board member would need to prove the falsehoods in my blog in court. However, everything I have written is based on truth. In my interactions defending my stance on the Board’s actions, I have been transparent and consistent. Despite accusations of playing the victim, my accounts remain unchanged and supported by evidence. The Board’s attempts to gaslight me have been evident, particularly in the 6th Board member situation.
After requesting to speak with three Board members following a violation letter, I was met with silence. It is baffling that no Board member will address my concerns about any matter including but not limited to the structural alterations or violations by others. Instead they would rather jump on Facebook and further show their unwillingness to change their views in a respectful way.
So here we are with a Blog full of truth and no way for the Board of Directors at Long Bay Commons to come up with any contradicting evidence other than acting in the same manner as they have been.
I know this Board member is upset because I used their name which is the only reason for their attacks on Facebook trying to justify the Board of Director’s bad faith actions. I don’t feel the court of public opinion is going to rule in their favor when its been made abundantly clear that regardless of the situation it should have been handled much differently with common decency, respect and a care for another human being and their circumstance.
For reference please refer to the previous blog posting “My dearest Long Bay Commons”. In the mean time here is the upset Board member posting and my replies to both her and her mother. As well as email posting.
To be quite honest, I’m unsure how an unseen window unit and an interior blind inside my house is affecting the appearance of condominiums. However altered non matching exterior railings and black exterior screens are somehow deemed ok. Let alone I’m trying to figure out where there was any type of libel having stated my views and actions & asking for basic human decency. If anything this comment made towards me seems to be a bit of libel as I only stated facts in my blog. Just because she disagrees with me as to how things should have been handled doesn’t constitute the hostility in her facebook post.
Tell me Board member, did you read the blog you commented on? Do you realize that is the letter you will receive before May 4th 2024? Tell me would you have been so offended then or is it just because I’ve posted it for the world to see first?
Email sent to the 3 Board members shortly after receiving the 1st violation letter. Again trying to talk things out.
After typing an email which addressed the issue, I was met with “Dawn Lane” the infamous 6th board member being rude. This is my response to that email. Notice the date of Feb 4th.
Court of public opinion post, then Board Member post. See how the gaslighting and name calling begin rather than wanting to understand another POV. My reply to the Board Member Part 1Part 2 of my reply via Facebook The Board Member’s mother chimes inMy reply to the Board Member’s mother part 1Part 2 reply. It’s been radio silent from them both
Well you guessed it, the Board of Directors at Long Bay Commons is at it again. First let’s shout them out! – Rodney Keesee – owner of Strands Outfitters – Andrea Martin – owner of Pelican Pack and Ship – Glenn Willis – owner of Coastal Carolina Designs – Christine Camp – owner of Carolina Executives – Janice Shannon – owner of New Leaf Integrative health
Yup! I went there….mainly because enough is enough and putting names and faces to what is going on here further proves my point when I say you give someone a little power and all of sudden it goes straight to their heads. Love it or hate it but this is that drastic I have to do in order to get things accomplished. Putting this matter to the court of public opinion before it’s mature date might just be the push this Board of Director’s need to see how childish they are really being, not to mention how intentional their undue bias is. With that said the following is a letter I had to respond with before my “violation meeting” May 4th 2024.
ROUGH DRAFT: (Cease and Desist letter included as attachment at the end) some parts are edited for semi-privacy purposes.
Heather Kuykendall (UNIT OWNER AT LONG COMMONS) Oak Island, North Carolina 28465
APRIL 10th 2024
The Board of Directors at Long Bay Commons Principal Address: 5022 E Oak Island Dr Suite 2 Oak Island, North Carolina 28465
RE: APRIL 5th 2024 HEARING NOTICE & TAPED LETTER ON DOOR
Board members & to those it may concern,
While I am in appreciation the Board of Directors finally desires to adhere to the Declarations & CCRs set forth by Long Bay Commons Property Owner’s Association, it will not negate from previous stated matters being addressed as they have been handled not in accordance to or with the Long Bay Commons By-Laws, our Declarations and CCRs & North Carolina General Statute 47c (The Condominium Act) when pertaining to 5016 E Oak Island Drive Unit 5, Oak Island NC 28465. This has led to the unnecessary writing of this letter and the beyond unnecessary threats made to Heather Whitney Conrad Kuykendall, the unit owner of the aforementioned address.
As I am the unit owner of 5016 Unit 5 I plan to speak bluntly, it comes without malicious intent or “being hateful” as it has been assumed by specific Board members. I am hoping this letter is taken seriously and without ill intent and in good faith as it should. However I am under no delusion that regardless of how clear my point is brought across it will not stop the outcome of what will inevitably be fines against me.
Over the past 5 years since Hurricane Florence I have asked the Board of Directors, when we have had one, for this specific meeting here. Regardless I never got one and the Board of Directors proceeded how they saw fit in bad faith against 5016 unit 5 leading to some unimaginable harassment, bullying and unethical behavior. This is still continuing due to one of those Board members still being active and seemingly in pursuit to torment me as a unit owner. I see this unnecessary meeting and letter in response to violation letters sent to my unit as a “Pot calling the kettle black” situation.
After 2 different violation letters arrived in February via email from the Board of Directors. I pursued to handle the issues and explain my position on them by asking for a meeting or conversation with specific Board members. I then went on via email to explain my position. After the 1st letter I requested a meeting or response from the Board and was met with learning of a 6th Board member. Now the Board can say what they want but as the email reads “Dawn Lane” claimed to be a Board Member and unit owner herself. Instead of an actual Board member speaking to me directly Dawn Lane carries on speaking on behalf of the Board of Directors for Long Bay Commons. This accomplished nothing in any type of respectful manner by the Board of Directors nor myself.
Email from “Dawn Lane” 6th Board member as stated by her.
Leaving things alone because at this point one Board member was altering the outside structure of the 5016 building and there were all kinds of construction debris etc laying everywhere among other units violating the Long Bay Commons By-Laws. I as a unit owner continued about my life until a 2nd letter came omitting some things and adding other “new” violations. Again, via email I went on to again explain my position as clearly as I could and try to gather information on why it was approved or going to be approved for a Board member to alter the outside structure of the building by putting up different un-uniformed railings and ask were POA funds going to be used. This was based on emails sent around that time. After no response and having someone climb on my balcony while “repairing the gutters” and was caught taking pictures of my balcony, one could only assume that POA funds were going to be used to fix the railings and that my pursuit to speak to the Board about these supposed “violations” were going to go unheard. This led to my reaction of being a bit over the top to get some type of response. It worked and created the reaction of a Board member’s wife showing up at my house acting like the Facebook police.
Railings not uniform nor are they made of wood
On March 1st 2024 I issued a cease and desist letter to the Board of Directors of Long Bay Commons outlining their Breach of Fiduciary duties and Breach of Covenants as well as outline all the violations according to the Long Bay Commons By – Laws. I was very detailed with the use of pictures, the By-laws, our CCRs and North Carolina General Statute 47c just as the Board of Directors tried to do with me. I asked that the Board understand that this is a pot calling the kettle black situation and how I as a unit owner had been targeted when other unit owners and Board members in clear violation have received no letters at all. I then go on to state that I have issues with my unit that are beyond the scope of authority of Long Bay Commons and its Board of Directors and that I will handle my things in a timely manner as I can. This being because no one wanted to have a conversation with me. The Board of Directors seems to have ignored or not reviewed the cease and desist, nor have they failed to take any such accountability for their actions.
What the biggest issue is here is that it seems like it is ok for Board members to act without accountability or adherence to the By-laws, CCRs or North Carolina General Statute 47c. They seem to ignore any statements made by me regarding my unit and pursue discouraging and degrading actions towards myself as a unit owner. The unwillingness to show any type of compassion or good faith towards myself as a unit owner as they have with others is noted as the undue bias which I have addressed several times in emails and in my cease and desist letter. Several times I have attempted to handle things in a civil, respectable manner however being ignored on top of receiving further violation letters only drove me to pursue other ways to communicate to get my point across. In layman terms, how far does being respectful go until you are pushed to a point of reacting to the disrespect? Well when being pushed to that point and doing so the Board of Directors come back with the excuse of “she’s mean, she sends ugly emails”. Well how many times was I respectful and waited for an answer and never received one or received other notices without addressing any issues brought forth to the Board? How many emails did I find myself being left out of as a unit owner when I shouldn’t have been? How many times could things have been handled differently like other units have been but it wasn’t? All I have ever asked for is communication and fairness but at some point I have to put my foot down and demand to be heard.
MOVING ON TO THE POT CALLING THE KETTLE BLACK SITUATION:
First, I would like to address my window units. My window units have been there since the end of 2022 without one complaint, issue or “violation” written. No emails were sent in regards to it, no issues of any sort. However, years later we are having an unnecessary dispute over it. – As I have clearly stated several times over email and in my cease and desist letter because my ac stopped working in the late summer of 2022 and not being able to update my house per my divorce attorney’s guidance, until my divorce settled no updates or repairs should be made to the house. So the option was window units, one unit which blows air into my living space and the other that helps maintain air flow throughout the rest of the lower level of my house. This window unit is unseen to a public eye as it is blocked by the BBQ house. The Board of Directors could have given permission however they have refused all while seemingly granting car washing, tarps, debris and other violations to be “ok” amongst other unit owners and tenants. Tell me where is the human decency to understand my circumstances here? Why are we bothered with something that has already been in place for over a year and a half due to unforeseen circumstances of the unit owner going through something outside the scope of POA.
Rodney’s parent washing car in the middle of the day during business hours
Tarp “approved” for Rodney’s parents house to put up over porch
The next thing I would like to address is the issue of my shade that is located inside my home. While there is no clear bylaw regarding blinds on the inside of my home, the misquoted by-laws states “shades and awnings” be of neutral color. This refers to anything outside the home but seems to be something the Board wants to use in order to fine me over something that is inside my home. HOWEVER, on the backside of building 5008 there is a “shade or awning” screen that is black and it is outside and alters the look of the backside of the 5008 building. Now this has been there since at least 2021 and the unit owner has never been in violation nor had any issues with having to take it down though it is in CLEAR violation of the by-laws. Has someone written violations for that unit? No, they have not as of the date of this letter. Nor have they even gone and asked the unit owner to take it down HOWEVER the Board of directors want to pursue fines and other things against me. This is where the pot calls the kettle black in a clear instance. Why is it ok for that unit owner to violate the by-laws but not ok for me and why I have received notices, violations and the threat of fines while turning a blind eye to someone else.
Debris , Screen attached to outside of the door “not in uniform color” but “approved” by the Board Members
The aforementioned is what is called favoritism towards other unit owners and undue bias towards myself. There is no other explanation for it other than being targeted when other avenues could have been taken before things got to this point.
The other big eye sore I would like to address is the alteration of the exterior of the 5016 building. While the Board of Directors love to quote by-laws, I am quoting from North Carolina General Statute 47c which states that anything that makes up the outside structure of the buildings and is listed & filed with the county of record on the plats and plains is a common element. As the current sitting President should attest to, he was told by Randolph James and Teresa Kitay that our railings are in fact common elements. Every time I have brought this to the Board’s attention it goes unacknowledged and fails to be addressed as to why Rodney Keesee has been allowed to alter the outside structure of a condominium without retaliation. The simple answer is because he is a Board member. As the Board’s excuses may consist of “not being able to find material” etc that is not an excuse as Alice Barnes in the 5022 had her porch redone (at her expense unfortunately) in 2022/early 2023 and was able to instruct the construction crew she hired to make sure that the porch matched all the others without altering the outside structures of the condominium. Fast forward about 2 years and Rodney Keesee comes along and not only does this but in turn he and the Board of Directors have targeted me to fine for violations. This again is the pot calling the kettle black. Do not attempt to fine me when you as the Board have allowed someone to devalue other’s property around them.
Again, railings not uniform and altering the look of the outside of the whole condominium
Without fail the odds here of me making any type of point for fairness and equality is out the window. This meeting will be stacked with the family of the President and others who worked tirelessly to be biased and prejudiced against me. In sorts it is futile to try to defend myself or ask for care and compassion. This inevitably will end up in a courtroom where I will have to show a judge why the POA Board wants to fine me to the point of foreclosure and on that day the POA will learn that not only are the railings part of the common elements but they will be told that this is childish and a clear “pot calling the kettle black situation”. After thousands of dollars are spent on attorneys fees and wasting POA funds then maybe I can finally have some peace and live without being attacked constantly by a biased group of people who can’t get out of their own way and be decent and understanding towards me as a unit owner.
How it should or could have been handled: – There are several different ways all of this could have been handled. The first being someone approaching me asking if I was ok and what was going on with my unit. Heck in 2022 before Andrea Martin became a Board member she knew about the window units and knew about some other personal struggles. She said “if you ever need help, let me help you” which I documented in a video about the POA I did. Fast forward to today, she is a Board member and she seems to have forgotten she made those statements or how to speak up and say something. Seems she could have helped this situation before any notices were sent. – Another way to have handled it was to email me asking questions, not in an official capacity but something general along the lines of “hey we noticed these things, are you ok, is something going on in your life that maybe we need to take into consideration?” Then maybe work out a timeline and keep everyone informed. * Would have not had an issue with any of these, it would have shown compassion, caring & understanding on the parts of every Board member. Instead it’s been the complete opposite. All the while other unit owners have had no issues despite being in violation. Heck they got “approvals” to have violations or to do something that violates the by-laws. But me, I’m having to type out this letter and threatening to be inevitably fined.
IN CLOSING:
Respectfully, I wish the Board members would adhere to the cease and desist letter and take accountability for their wrong doing, admitting they have not been in good faith standing with me. I want to move forward without additional hardship which the POA and its Board have helped place on me. I deserve the same respect & equality given to every other unit owner and hope moving forward things can be handled differently. It is my intuition that tells me even if I could fix these “violations” right now. I will always be under a microscope and in another few months I will continue to have the Board of Directors targeting me.
NOTE: Attached you will find a copy of the Cease and Desist letter with addendum. Please consider adhering to it as I have done my best to bring settlement to this and all other matters. Accountability would be appreciated.
Reverentially,
Heather Whitney Conrad Kuykendall Owner: at Long Bay Commons POA
Vacasa is the second largest property management company in the world. Earlier this year in their Oak Island North Carolina location an employee was terminated after coming back from mental health leave where she had a Dr note excusing her from work due to her disability. However, upon returning to work her Local Operations Manager Christine Vann demoted and diminished the employee’s job duties simply because the employee was out. When the employee turned to her direct supervisors after this incident via text and email, she was completely ignored. The employee stated after that she did as instructed per the Vacasa employee handbook, which she still has a PDF copy of, she was forced to go to Vacasa’s HR and that’s where things took a turn. She said upon filing the complaint with HR in good faith and turning over the more than 20 pages of texts and emails she was retaliated against and terminated on January 5th 2024. Upon being terminated the employee states she went as high as the Chief Legal Officer Rebecca Boyton and the CEO Rob Greyber, neither cared to respond nor were concerned that Vacasa violated State and Federal laws. What is even more concerning is the employee says she has attempted to consult with more than 45 attorneys in the State of North Carolina and not one attorney will pick up the case. The employee stated she has done her homework, written out a complaint and provided attorneys with similar, if not exact, case law and all the overwhelming evidence. She doesn’t understand why her case isn’t of any interest to attorneys out there. She feels like this is a second round of discrimination that “just seems absolutely unbelievable.”
Below is a summary of the employee’s complaint:
The summary is a legal complaint NOT yet filed by (the employee) against Vacasa Inc, LLC and three individuals (Christine Vann, Cindy Elliot, and Bob Johnson) in the Superior Court Division of Brunswick County, North Carolina. The complaint alleges violations of the North Carolina Equal Employment Practice Act (NCEEPA), North Carolina Persons with Disabilities Protection Act (N.C.G.S 168A), and North Carolina Retaliatory Employment Discrimination Act (NCREDA).
The background section provides details about the employee’s employment with Vacasa Inc, LLC as a Property Caretaker from September 2023 to January 2024. It also mentions that the employee resides and worked in Brunswick County, North Carolina, while Vacasa Inc, LLC is a national property management company based in Portland, Oregon.
Count 1 of the complaint focuses on violations of the NCEEPA. The employee claims that her job duties were significantly diminished by Defendant 1 (Christine Vann) after she returned from disability leave. The employee alleges mistreatment by Vann and Defendant 2 (Cindy Elliot) and states that she was wrongfully discharged by the company.
Count 2 addresses violations of the North Carolina Persons with Disabilities Protection Act. The employee asserts that she has two mental health conditions that were known to Defendants 1 and 2. She claims to have made her own workplace accommodations but was treated unfairly based on her disabilities.
Count 3 focuses on the violations of the North Carolina Retaliatory Employment Discrimination Act. The employee states that her job duties were diminished to nothing, and she was forced to go to Defendants HR for help. She filed a complaint with HR and provided evidence of workplace discrimination, but was terminated shortly after.
The complaint also includes allegations of wrongful discharge, contract violation, gross mismanagement, and abuse of authority. The employee argues that the Defendants ignored their own handbook regarding reporting discrimination and retaliation. She claims that the Defendants’ actions were in bad faith and breached the employment contract.
In the “Wherefore” section, the Employee seeks compensatory and punitive damages from the Defendants, as well as specific amounts from each individual defendant for their alleged actions. She also requests other relief deemed fair and proper by the court.
The complaint concludes with a Certificate of Service, certifying that the employee served a copy of the complaint to Vacasa Inc, LLC and the three individual defendants via first-class mail. (or will serve once filed by an attorney)
Following a private Facebook post about the photo below, it sparked controversy amongst onlookers who thought they knew the “whole story”.
And this is the truth:
As it is now the days of drama loving, screen shotting, nosy people, a Facebook post made from my private Facebook page made its way to the President of Long Bay Commons Rodney Keesee and his wife Trinity Keesee. While I am completely unbothered, the controversy it sparked and the unhinged response from the Keesee’s are more an area of interest that need to be explored by enlightening the public about the rest of the story that surrounded the making of this post:
But 1st Let’s back it up to the beginning of February of 2024:
This is important so hang in here with me. In early February of 2024, after the resolve of paying over $10,000 in back dues from me assuming all the debts in my divorce in order to have a roof over my head, I was living in peace with no issues. No more Rodney working with my ex-husband to get me out of my house. There was nothing he could do anymore, in any capacity. OR SO it seemed. In early February I received an email saying that a company had been hired to replace and fix the gutter that had been in disrepair for a little over a month. No big deal, it had fallen off before, no drama had ever come from it. UNTIL…. this time. The company (who I didn’t know at this time) came out without having to access my balcony or my unit.
Gutter on the side of my unit & balcony, photo dated Feb 9th 2024. This was after the 1st time the company came to “look at” fixing it.
And we continue…….
The company was supposed to come out and evaluate or quote I guess. Well as you can see all that is clearly achievable from the ground, however, the company gets up on a ladder and takes photos per the President of Long Bay Common’s order ( “POA”) and shortly after the company’s visit I receive “violations”. These violations that the POA speaks of have been violations since before the Board of Directors was re-established on September 16th 2023. These same violations were still an issue back on November 16th of 2023 when I had a meeting with the Board of Directors about the almost $10,000 in back dues. The concern for these “violations” wasn’t on their mind then because Rodney was thinking he was getting away with illegally foreclosing on my house at the moment (that’s a story for another day). So when the $10,000 in back dues were paid and the hope of Rodney getting me out of my house finally went away, what better way than to start fining me for “violations”. It’s hilarious to me because these violations that were brought up had to do with the railings & the window units I had to have in order to make it through the hot summer and which the Board could give me approval to have them but do you think that’s going to happen? NO not a chance. They want me to spend another $10,000 to fix my AC units ASAP otherwise they are going to fine me until I am booted out of my home.
ENTER: THE MYSTERIOUS 6th BOARD MEMBER “DAWN LANE”
Yup, that’s right, upon receiving this violation via email, I noticed a strange email tagged. I am thinking, is this the company that came out? It is against our State Statute N.C.G.S 47c, our Declarations(CCRs) and our Bylaws to include anyone who is NOT a property owner in Long Bay Commons Business dealings. WELL, imagine my surprise when I get an email back from this mysterious email. They claim their name is “Dawn Lane” and they are a Board member and property owner of one of the properties in the 5022 buildings and have been since 2005. I have been a property owner since 2015 and I am NOT aware of an owner named Dawn Lane. I do know I am one of the 4 remaining original owners of property since before Hurricane Florence. This was very easily debunked as I went to the county property records online. I copy and paste the link to the property deed and the owner of which “Dawn Lane” claimed she was an owner of. Dawn seemed to want to answer for the Board like she was a Board member and wanted to speak with authority like I should listen otherwise she will reign down fines like an HOA Karen. I simply explained that I will no longer be entertaining “Dawn Lane” because she was NOT voted on as a Board member during the September 16th 2023, nor does she own property here. Well as you can imagine being caught in a big ole lie the Board of Directors failed at their attempts to hold me to those violations because let’s face it, at this point since they wanted to admit to defrauding Long Bay Commons Property Owners Association by means of adding a 6th Board member on paper, no way would a court hold me to any such ridiculous fines, let alone believe ANYTHING the Board of Directors say.
Let’s fast forward to February 11th 2024 Super Bowl Sunday
Time: on or around 7:30am Sunday morning of the Super Bowl. I am up feeding my parrots when Frostee becomes highly offended by some weird noise outside and the notice of a human in his sight. I, of course, walk over and open my blinds to my patio doors to see a young guy repairing the gutter.
I saw a worker on a ladder using his phone to take photos of my porch, well beyond the scope of taking pictures of the repair area on that particular section of the gutter. I quickly grabbed my phone & took pictures of him doing this and called the police. When the police arrived, another one of the workers tried to talk over me and the officer. The officer explained the privacy laws regarding balconies/patios as it pertains to units like these.
The worker claimed to be working on projects for Long Bay Commons, which the property owners association (POA) was paying for. I emailed the Board of Directors to inform them about the incident. I also mentioned my concerns about the POA possibly using funds to benefit the president’s son.
I believe the Board of Directors should have responded privately to clarify the situation. Instead, their lack of response made it seem like they were favoring the president’s son. Do you agree? Plus, would you believe anything they had to say at this point based on what has taken place thus far? *It is important to note some details about this particular incident are being left out of this blog as I will be having a detailed discussion with Black Dog Construction on February 19th 2024 about the particulars surrounding this.
Let’s visit the February 17th 2024 Facebook drama
So I made the aforementioned Facebook post, it’s on my private account and I am not friends with Rodney or Trinity Keesee. It’s important to note that over the years I have posted publicly, blogged YouTubed, posted on Tiktok and even screen shot several things that have made much worse “allegations” including but not limited to financially missing POA funds, blackmail & harassment. However, for some reason this one caused an unhinged response from Rodney and Trinity Keesee. Once it was posted and “sent” to both of them by an unnamed party. I was sitting on my balcony talking with a friend on the phone. Within minutes here comes Rodney in his big black truck racing into the side parking lot, accompanied by the white truck from Black Dog Construction, the same one that had the workers who took pictures of my patio. They exchanged something quickly and “scooted tires” out of the parking lot in a major hurry. Then here comes Trinity whipping in the parking lot in their red jeep in front of my house. She gets out and notices I’m on my balcony. I am on the phone at this point and she’s down there yelling “Heather” over and over. What in her mind got her so upset she felt she was entitled enough to drive over to my house and pull a stunt like that over a Facebook post? If the post wasn’t true and it was private why in the world did it upset her so bad that she thought it was ok to come over and possibly choose violence? What if I hadn’t been on my porch? Would she have thought she could bang on my door until I answered? Would she have tried to break it down? For what reason? Over a Facebook post that if it isn’t true anyways shouldn’t bother her? After all these years of her husband attacking me and everything he has done I have never thought it was ok to march over to his house and yell at him. I am an adult. I’ve done my best to get him to leave me alone and he won’t. Now Trinity Keesee feels entitled enough to come over here and act unhinged and yell at me over a Facebook post?
The fact remains why after all these years and what’s been posted very publicly and said about her husband, not just by me but by everyone on the Island, was it this that made her act in a criminal manner to show up at someone’s house to try to threaten or intimidate them over a private account’s Facebook post.
What is born to stay in darkness will always come to light
Or however the saying the goes
Do I believe based on the events of February that I was somehow being gaslighted to think I am the one losing my mind? Absolutely.
Do I think the situation and game changed once I found out POA funds were being used for things maybe they shouldn’t be? Yeah absolutely.
Is our POA transparent with our finances like they should be? No, they hold that so close and there is a reason.
Do I think this show of scared tactics is a way of them lashing out because I may have uncovered some truth? OH, ABSOLUTELY.
Do I believe EVERY Board member knows exactly what is going on? AB-SO-LUTE-LY NOT
Our POA Board has 4 other members and yet they refuse to do anything to help make a positive impact.
What people do NOT know, is Mr. Keesee has done something irreprehensible to me recently,something I should probably show up at his door and yell at him about but I’m going to sit back and bide my time, because you can’t hide your skeletons forever.
With that being said…..happy reading…..
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